Gavra, first of all, without a job or parental support, less isn’t the issue, the issue is paying basic bills. Harbeh asu? Maybe, Hashem can certainly do anything, but ein somchin al haneis. Second, the objective here is to create more shidduchim, and in the real world, your approach will scare people off from getting married.
I happen to agree with you, and it brings out an important point. We are not preparing our children to be married when they get married. Therefore, how can we expect them to “not have parental involvement”, or not go for “the best boy in Lakewood”, or even want to live on their own instead of living off others (ex. Rashi in Noach) when they have no idea what it takes to be married??
Logician: How old ? go back a bit more, and it was always this way.
Old enough that when I write this, I hear my bones creak 🙂 That being said, further back in Europe, the daughter of the tailor had no Hava Amina that she would marry someone in learning, or even someone who would be able to do more than put a roof over their heads (if that). If you want to blame the shidduch crisis on “Uppity” girls who want to marry over their station, I would not be the one to disagree.
Those who’ve had no social contact with the opposite gender prior to marriage successfully get married at rates at least as much as those who’ve had a lifetime of pre-marital social contact with the opposite gender.
Agreed, but what works for Chassidim and Yerushalmis would not work for the Yeshivish Olam, for many different reasons.