lighitup – Moed Kattan 18b
memo – It’s not about knowing if you chose the right one. The question “Is this the one Hashem had planned for me?” should never be part of the equation in making your decision. It is impossible to know what Hashem’s plans are. As one choshuve person put it “I know people who were told by gedolim that this is their zivug min hashamayim and they got divorced. vaist duch ois divorce is also min hashamayim!”. You have to make your decision based on where you are holding in life. Does this make sense intellectually, hashkafically and emotionally for you in your life right now and can you see a future? If the answer is yes then the rest is up to your hishtadlus in treating each other and the priorities in your bayis properly and, of course, Hashem.