Reply To: Learner/Earner

Unfortunately, when my daughter said she was looking for a boy to learn 2-3 years, more than one shadchan says that is not a serious learner. I guess 5-10 is more like it

I think they choose to learn longer than 3 years because it makes them look good. I’m sorry to be cyncial, but I do not believe every boy who is sitting and learning and plans to do so for some time, actually wants to, but they’ve been told that is the way to get a great shiidduch, makes them look honorable and they can avoid going to work for several years.