Trsut 789 AND yekke2- being Jews we all feel for each other. We feel the pain. When someone is in pain and you cannot do something you feel helpless and GUILTY. So, to push away the guilt, we do something. Some people take it in the right way. But most don’t. Anyone I’ve spoken to take on something to push away their feelings, like I mentioned in the first post, and 2 weeks later they forget about the kabala, guoilt gone, they haven’t gotten anywhere higher.
Yekke I have heard that mashul before.
What I am saying is that kabalos wane and don’t make people any better ussually when you make them in a time like this (any better say,2 months later- you are in the same place, back to square one. Maybe it will take 6 months..but ya). You need to work on what you already do so you will want to take on something more not for your guilt but for your ahava for the mitzvah. See what I mean? Girls take on more tzniyus as a kabalah, but half don’t even LIKE tzniyus in the first place and the second they are outta high school, their standards are dropped. Their kabbala along with halacha even. So instead of taking on a kabala, they should take on the mitzvah.
Growing up with so many mitzvos we are learned the motions from young but have to discover feelings for much of it later on. (Not everyone, but even people who do grow up in a place with feelings for the mitzvos, it’s not EVERY mitzvah) How can we take on something new when we aren’t doing the old to the fullest?!?!
Once we do that we will want to take on something new.
I have not yet a source for the kabbalah thing, but it just makes sense to be up to par with what you are ALREADY doing before you move on, no?
Please tell me if that sounds too crazy…