Midwesterner – you know why that story makes no sense? because the person who threw out the son was the one who said they are different and if they aren’t, he had no basis for throwing out the son. The question in return is irrelevent to that point. The father is saying to a charedi rav, do YOU see these two as the same? If the psak is that they are the same, then they cannot throw out my son. Period. Adding that end point instead of acknowledging the responsibility inherent in the beginning is a red herring.
And MORE importantly, I am excited about Mrs. Midwesterner’s summer plans! I have material that fits the request and am hoping to send it your way 😉