To address a tangential discussion:
bygirl93 said:
Correct me if I’m wrong but isn’t the whole point of marriage for boy’s so that they can fulfill the mitzvah of Piru’urivu? Pretty sure that that mitzvah doesn’t apply to girls.
DaasYochid said:
Bygirl93, that is not the only reason to get married.
bygirl93 said:
DY- I am very well aware of that. BUT if you get down to the actual detail about what you learn in school- that’s pretty much it. At least in typical bais Yaakovs where they don’t teach gemara. That’s pretty much all a girl learns is the HALACHIC reasoning- there are lots of obvious reasons- this is just the one that tends to be taught is halacha.
DaasYochid said:
Well, you wanted someine to correct you if you were wrong..
Health said:
BYgirl 93- What BY school did you learn Halacha reasoning in? The Halacha is both men & women Have to get married!
There are three potential reasons why a girl would have to get married:
1) ??? ????
2) ???? ????
3) ???
It’s a machlokes Tannaim in Yevamos 65b whether a woman is chayev in ??? ????. The halacha follows the Tanna Kamma that she is not obligated.
Tosafos in Gittin 41b ?”? ?? holds that a woman is obligated in ???, but this position is not accepted by the codifiers of halacha.
Which leaves the issue of ???. The Rambam in Hilchos Ishus 15:16 writes:
??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ????.
The Tur does not mention this, and the Rema in Even Ha’ezer 1:13 writes:
??”? ?”? ??? ????? ??? ??? ???? ????
Now this is an interesting lashon. It doesn’t say that it’s assur to not marry, nor does it say that she is obligated to marry. It says that she shouldn’t be without a husband. This is significant as we shall see.
Various commentators point out that it’s a stirah in the Rambam. We just quoted him as saying ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ???? yet in Issurei Biah 21:26 he writes:
????? ???? ??? ???? ????? ?? ???? ?????
which clearly implies that she never has to get married under any circumstances. The various commentators suggest various answers.
A few acharonim suggest that the Rambam in Issurei Biah is talking about a place where there would be no chashad, e.g. if there are no men in that place.
The ???? ??? quotes this suggestion and says ???? ??? ????. He then gives two answers:
1) ????? ???? ???? ???? ????? ???? ???? ?????? ??? ????? ????? ?????? ?????? ?????? ???? ????? ???? ????? ???? ???? ???? ??? ??? ???? ?????? ???? ??? ???? ??? ??? ???? ???? ?????
2) ???? ???? ???? ????? ????? ????? ??? ??? ???? ???? ??????? ?????? ???? ?? ???? ?? ???? ?? ???? ???? ??? ???? ???”?
The ??? ???? quotes an answer that min hadin a woman does not have to get married at all and “??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ????” is an eitzah tovah.
So to conclude, there are definitely grounds to argue that a woman is not obligated to get married. DaasYochid, the thing that bygirl93 said “correct me if I’m wrong” on was ??? ????, so even if you are right that there is a different obligation, bygirl93 was still correct and therefore you were not actually correcting her for being wrong. However, the lashon you used was “that is not the only reason to get married” which does not necessarily indicate that you think that there is an obligation to get married, but merely a reason to get married. But Health explicitly stated that there is an obligation, so this post is primarily a response to him, pointing out that it’s not so pashut.
Even if there is no obligation for her to get married, she still gets a mitzvah of helping the man fulfill his mitzvah. As the ??? ???? writes:
???”? ???? ???? ????? ??? ???? ?”? ?? ?? ???? ??? ??? ??? ???? ?????