Hakatan- thank you for your explanation. I hope you understand my point tho- coming from that background and bH finding my way to a more halachic and torah focused lifestyle, I’m truley able to see the flaws in it. But still living among people with that lifestyle and truley just trying to love them despite the fact that as you said they might my emphasize Torah as others do, is truley eye opening. It is true, I would love to see the world more focused on torah, but to be honest I can only set myself as an example in my community, I cannt change anyone. And that means the onus is on me to show them being halachic and Toradig is meaningful and not burnsome. It also means that I must show them I still can love and respect them despite our differences.
Sorry for my extra rant- I appreciate your apology and I’m sorry that I thought that was your intension