PAA,
To illustrate one of the issues, let’s play a little game. Would you consider something wrong with the following scenario:
A young, orthodox, high school aged Jewish male decides that instead of going to yeshiva to learn during his early years, he wants to prepare himself for a different kind of familial role in life than the one typically fostered by young, frum, Jewish men. He decides to take baking and cooking classes for the purpose of providing for his children. He takes home-ec classes 5 days a week. He volunteers as a preschool and kindergarten assistant during the day so he can learn how to better care for infants and children. He also decides to do college online twice a week because he would probably also want to marry a girl is very learned in Torah (perhaps one who wants to go for her smicha) and he wants to be able to provide financial support for he in case she decides to do that, but not permanently. He figures that because of the life choices that he has made – to be the main caretaker of his children- he probably won’t have ample time to study Torah, and since one of the parents will have to pass on the mesorah to his future children, it might as well be her. He also wishes to marry a girl who would go out to work at the office all day because he plans to be a stay at home dad who makes breakfast, lunch, and dinner for his kids, as well as take care of things around the house like laundry, dishes, and cleaning. He makes time during the day to daven, put on tfillin, and reciting tehillim (which paturs his minimum responsibility for learning Torah). He figure osek bemitzvah patur min hamitzvah, and since raising kids is a 24/7 mitzvah (which he strongly desires to do) he is therefore patur from Torah learning and making money, he just needs to find his bashert that will fit his ambitions.
Is there anything wrong with this picture?