I wasn’t going to answer your post, interjection, because I couldn’t possibly have put it better than DY.
But I was (slightly) offended by your comment about men ogling every other woman on the street.
I can’t speak for all men. But I know a few, personally, who are careful with shmiras einayim. That doesn’t mean you have to be their challenge. There are enough challenges out there for them.
And I know at least one who, while he deals with this when he’s out in the world, is uncomfortable to find himself in improper surroundings when he’s attending a simcha. It’s not always possible to walk out and go home, and it’s not the kind of place where you expect to have to walk around looking at your shoelaces.
** As of yet my husband’s Rav has not requested that he bully me about anything at all, but I was wondering, what’s wrong with an A line skirt?