But we MUST realize that wer must try as hard as we can to get the way we live our lives (not just halacha shailos) from the torah and those who represent the torah.
Absolutely! But what does that mean, “those who represent the Torah?” Just because someone is a talmud chochom, even a huge talmud chochom, does not mean all their actions and advice is what the Torah wants. We should hope that it does, but it is their own limited beliefs as human beings. As I said, make certain the person has the knowledge pertaining to the situation, is someone you can trust to have your best interests in mind. If it seems like the person is not looking to have your best interest in mind, or if it seems they don’t have the whole picture, then look elsewhere. Not just listen because “they represent the Torah”.
You said, we must try. I agree with that 100%.