DaasYochid:
According to your understanding of the Perisha, it should be assur for her to learn herself as well because she doesn’t know if she will be ????? ????? ????? ????. In other words both her and any potential teacher are in the same position of not knowing what her learning will lead to. So it would either be assur for both or muttar for both. Unless you are saying that it is in fact assur for her to learn herself, but once she learns herself b’issur she can prove that she is capable of learning and then anyone can teach her. But I really don’t think that’s what the Perisha is saying.
And I think it’s even more clear from the Maharil that as long as she takes the initiative, it demonstrates ???? ?????? ???? and it’s ok.
The R’ Elyashiv is from He’aros Chagiga 3a.
I would tend to agree that we can’t and shouldn’t impose it on them. Perhaps we shouldn’t even be imposing what we do impose. I would think that optional classes are ok.