anyone hear of r dessler that says lying for shalom which is muttar is saying the truth?
These are probably the lies he was referring to. If your wife makes a supper that you think is disgusting, you can tell her it tasted good. If your husband buys you a present that you hate, and returning it will hurt his feelings, tell him you liked it. If your wife looks ugly, tell her she looks gorgeous. If your husband folded the laundry wrong, tell him he did a great job.