I am well aware of how the community thinks, I know a relative who turned down a very nice bocher who was the son of a big doctor because he didnt want to promise that he would learn past 10 years in favor of a bachor who promised to learn for the rest of his life who came from a kollel family
(The richer bocher was not a snob or anything and I was told he was a very good catch from a very good family, just that he didnt want to promise (He didnt say he woulndt, just that he couldnt predict the future and didnt want to make a promise if things would change)
(I suppose that post was in response to popa but the order got switched.)
It’s amazing how you claim to know how the community thinks, yet cite a story which represents a tiny fraction of people.
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Rebbe Yid, I think the OP means boys who will be in kollel a whole day for the first years of marriage, not that they will stay in kollel forever.
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For some perspective on the idea of a serious learner not getting a degree or a job: