Syag Lchochma – Ein Lo Elah Mekomo V’Shayto.
1: It would bother me less if they didn’t expect it from the Klal, who has better things to spend money on. It would bother me less if they asked Rich Uncle Pennybags (from Monopoly), or applied for a loan from the bank.
2: None the less, that would still bother me, as the expectations of all involved (the parents and the couple) as to what a wedding and presents “have to be” is just not Yashrus (not when the parents are struggling themselves), and it certainly is not right to beg (or ask!) for the Klal to pay for your extravagances.