Shlishi. My rebbi always said people forget the rest of the pasuk, “”vlo tisa alav chet”.. if its probable that the person won’t heed your tochacha it’s assur to give it (don’t remember if he used the word “assur”, but the maskana was DON’T give it). Leave it to someone whom they will listen to. Besides, you have to give tochacha for the right reasons. There are very reliable rabbeim out there who say giving tochacha has to be done so delicately and precisely that we aren’t even on the maylah of mussar to do it nowadays. You are definitely not allowed to insult, embarrass, or offend someone while giving tochacha. It’s not such a simple thing.
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