Newbee and DaasYochid,
I submitted a post explaining that the two of you are arguing over something that is a machlokes haposkim but for some reason the moderators haven’t put it through.
In short, Rav Moshe holds derech chiba is objective. Other poskim, such as Rabbi Yitzchak Isaac Weinberg, hold that it is subjective. It is question of how to understand the Rambam.