How can you possibly say you’re not guessing when you didn’t even guess correctly?
OO’s emotions come from a secular worldview, and secular values have no place in halachah. Then they end up twisting halachah beyond recognition to fit their agenda.
There are feelings and emotions which are part of Torah values and most certainly are part of halachah, although of course like anything else, various factors need to be balanced.
The entire purpose of the aveilus of bein hametzarim etc. is to feel the churban and galus haShechinah, and saying that it’s not an area in which someone with the proper hergeshim looks for kulas is pashut.
Nothing anyone said is outside of halachah. The basic halachah is not to bathe. Yes, an istenis (which we probably all are nowadays) is allowed, but is there a chiyuv? No, and if he feels that he wants to feel the tzaar haShechinah (kiviyachol), is that something to be scoffed at? Should we not bemoan the fact that that too many of us (and I include myself) are more interested in our physical comfort than in feeling the aveilus we’re supposed to feel?