KS, I’m not either, but we can feel it a bit. Do you really think the aveilus for the chudban is an exercise in futility? It’s surely not, even though we certainly don’t feel it the way we should.
Sam, their rationalizing that it’s from a Torah perspective doesn’t make it so.
This is not twisting halachah at all. Lifnim mishuras hadin and wanting to feel the aveilus is not merely acceptable in halachah, it is preferable and desired.