Syag – “I got to, “But let’s say you were a single girl, and you signed a contract not to get engaged until the year was over. “
i never said, implied, or hinted to such a statement.it’s both a ridiculous statement, and insulting to think i would say that. if the rest of the answer is based on that premise than please reread the posts.”
Really? Because to me, it sounded like you were supportive of such an agreement, by what you said here:
“We do have a school here (maybe two) that had a policy that any single girl who wanted a job had to sign that she was committed to finishing the year. The girls had a choice, never did anyone think it was a request not to date or get married. It was a request to be committed to the children in your charge. take it or leave it, in august. We should have more of that but too many people in the other schools seem to believe that committing to the year means we don’t want them dating.”
I did read the last sentence in this post, but I’m not quite sure how one gets engaged without dating. And if one gets engaged, and married, how that wouldn’t result in them not finishing the year, unless they stay local, in which case there is no issue. As I said, whether or not the husband will decide to stay local til the end of the year is completely up to him – not the girl he dates. Also, you said that they had a choice, but you seemed to imply in other posts that if they got married and consequently left that would mean they were not committed.
“i stopped reading the thread because there was alot of that reflexive – “take what you think you heard and disagree”, or “assume the chareidi lifestyle is being attacked so jump all over it” attitude”
In a thread like this that’s bound to happen. 🙂 I try not to “take what I think I heard” but maybe my interpretations of your posts was off, and I apologize.
“i reopened it now cuz i saw you name :)”
Wow – I’m touched!! 🙂 🙂