RebbYidd23- exactly.
I don’t object to the idea that women generally do the cooking and take care of other domestic responsibilities. What offends me is the belief that it is a woman’s DUTY to do such a thing, and not a man’s. (Read Rebbetzin Heller’s “Our Bodies, Our Souls” for an opinion on that sexist view.)
Torah613Torah- I agree with you that marriage is about doing what works for your relationship. In fact, that’s exactly my point: every husband and wife share responsibilities in a marriage based on what works for them, and obviously, there are some responsibilities that a woman generally takes while others that a man usually does, but there are no blanket rules. To write that “it is a woman’s duty to take out the garbage” – or, in fact, to take care of any given thing in a marriage – to me is demanding, sexist, entitled, and unmentschlich.