and the idea that you think the only two choices are having a wife who only does what you tell her, or having a wife who refuses to do what you tell her is very interesting. for some of us there is a whole world between those two choices that contains partnership.
Why assume that if a woman doesn’t accept that the cooking is “her job”, that implies she will refuse to do it. The cooking may be done by the woman but if that doesn’t work for them as a couple, it may not be. And as an aside, I know few if any households where the garbage is not taken out by the husband or sons.