ok, i’m gonna be a real tipesh now (or should i say golem??) and answer this strating from the bottom.
anonymisss, fair is that everyone gets what he/she deserves or needs.
AOB, i’m sorry but that’s really stupid. so the guy who breaks his pinky is going through the same pain as the guy whose dad just died?? there’s no way. and this is not a happiness issue.
squeak, you’re last because you might understand better from kapusta’s.
kapusta, but at the end of the day, who is the one who had it easier? the guy with less pulling him away, right? so there’s not much that will prevent him from reaching what he’s supposed to. the other guy may be a lot greater if and only if he ever actually gets anywhere in life. it’s a lot harder for him to even make a tiny move.
so squeak, let’s say (and this is just an example) i’m an ok guy who sits and learns. (for once i’m gonna be the good guy ;)) not a genius, no major passion for anything, no concept of defiance, and no desire to do anything but be a good boy. kinda dull, but that’s ok. basically a pashut guy with emuna pshuta. decent guy? can he accomplish a nice amount in his life? sure. he’ll never be a great gadol or anything, but that’s not anyone’s goal in life. (hey that was me, right? so i was supposed to use “i” all over the place?? ;))
now take the next guy. energetic guy who gets caught up in whatever he’s doing. does everything to it’s fullest with passion and all that junk. passion has two sides, though. pulling you to do good and pulling you the other way. so while he’s doing what he should be, he’s at the top. but if he’s ever pulled to the opposite extreme, he’s the lowest of the low.
so if this guy stays at the top and fights his whole life he’s much greater than the first guy, right? if not, he’s waaay lower.
now tell me: is that fair? one guy gets to cruise through life with barely a bump in the road, while the next guy’s constantly fighting?