I just read through the other posts,
moish 1. whoever said that youre the evildoer of your friends can not tell you that for the simple reason they cant judge you, everyone does it, but that doesnt mean its right and it means from where you stand, you dont have to take it. the guy was never in your shoes.
2. to go a bit off topic here, not everyone is cut out for learning. the guy who learns an hour a day, is still doing something if, considering his current level, its an improvement. the idea is to improve, not to be a learning machine. many guys may acheive their goal of improving through learning. but it doesnt mean its the only way.
3. I dont know anything about your friends, but honestly IMO, you care more than most people who are not frum. I cant imagine that youre the one pulling them down.
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