The original poster wrote: “let us make this “ahavas chiunam” – the love we have for each other…
Rav Shlomo Volbe zatza”l said that the term “AHAVAS CHINAM” is a mistaken misquote! it is a takeoff of what chazal call “sinas chinam” but while sinah – hatred can be “chinam”- for nothing – which means without a reason enough to hate another jew, AHAVAH on the otherhand is NEVER chinam, especialy for a jew, just the fact that he is part of the am hanivchar Hashem’s chosen children is more than plenty of a reason to love him.
Our problem is that we think that the Ahavah is chinam and therefore have a hard time with it.