Here is a small “thought-experiment”. DaasYochid, imagine that I told you that I was moving down the block from you. I had never before learned meseches temura or uktzin, or yevamose b’iyun, and decided to spend the next several years of my life trying to learn those mesechtose. Of course I need a way to put food on the table so I ask you if you’d be willing to support me — I don’t need much, just a bed and minimal food. You’re a nice guy, and of course care very much about talmud torah, so you say yes, you’re willing to put me up a few dollars per week for so I can learn Torah.
After a few months you realize that supporting me is a bit of strain on your finances so you say, hey M, I’m really sorry but I can’t keep up this arrangement, money is tight. I say to you, DaasYochid, what do you mean? I see that you guys go out to dinner every other week. Why not just stop doing that, and you’ll have plenty of money left to support me? You mull it over and, realizing that talmud torah is more important that dining out, agree.
Another few months later, things are difficult again, and you come to me saying, look, things aren’t working out. And I say, what do you mean DaasYochid, I saw that last yuntif you bought your wife a beautiful new dress and gold earrings. I saw you bought your children new clothing. Surely you can find the cash to support a budding talmid chacham who just wants to learn? Again you acquiesce and continue sending me checks. You even trade in your new Camry for an older vehicle so that you can support me with the difference.
A few months later you realize that this is all a bit much and you really, really can’t continue doing this. As kindly as you can you explain the situation to me. And you ask me to find someone else that can support you. It’s ok, I understand, you just don’t appreciate the value of talmud torah like I do. To you, material possessions are more important than ruchniyus. Your once-a-year vacation with your family is more important than talmud torah. Whatever…
Can you imagine how aggravated you would be in this situation? Of course you care about talmud torah, since you just supported me for several years. You’d probably feel pushed around a bit even when you cut me checks willingly. And this is how I sometimes feel about many chareidi institutions. They move into town, with a cadre of young men eager to learn and teach Torah. Of course I want to support them — halvai that I could sit and learn all day, eating food from shamayim. But it is a strain, of course. And then there is the guilt — what, you don’t care about talmud torah? They do this to all of the balebatim, and of course people give willingly — how can they say no to the rosh kollel? Don’t they care about Talmud Torah?!
And this is what happens when one year the Israeli government decides to give less to yeshivas — “It’s because they hate Torah!!!” “They’re doing this because they hate chareidim!!” “What, they have money to give to open a museum, but not for a yeshiva?!?!”
But I think you, a person who certainly appreciates talmud torah, even you would probably resent a group of people moving into your area insisting that you and your friends support them, and then guilting them about how learning must not be important to you. It’s very aggravating.