Reply To: "What's your favorite color?" is bad chinuch

ubiquitin, entitled means that one has a right and I never said people don’t have a right. I said what makes sense, what is proper, but never did I say they don’t have a right to do what they want.

For your second point, you’re right, if a child would be faced with a choice of food and you say, “which is your favorite? Make a b’racha on that one.” And, naturally, you would ask the child what his favorite food is for each of the b’rachos. That is not at all the case. Many children are asked that question long before they know any hilchos b’rachos.

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The kesef mishna quotes his source from avos dr’ nasan, so I doubt you’ll find anyone who argues.

What you said in 2), I didn’t say everyone is capable of reaching such a madreiga, but why do we go out of our way to train our children not to attain that level?

What you said in 3), my objection is that in puts emphasis on eating foods which taste good. You wouldn’t ask a child “So, what gets you angry the most?” even though when anger is kept in check there’s nothing wrong with it (derech habeinoni).

4) A) Yes, food is allowed to taste good. Read what I wrote above. B) The purpose of salt is for health, not to make the bread taste better.

Comlink X, it was in response to his second post, Why do you care about chinuch?

As to Yaakov and Eisav, as well as the fact that Halacha clearly takes good food into account, I’m not sure the onus is on me to explain that, given that the rambam I quoted makes this point, but anyway, I don’t think it’s much of a question. Hasheim did put flavor in food, for our benefit, people do enjoy good tasting food rather than bad tasting food, and it follows that when we make a b’racha, we make it on the food from which we receive the most pleasure. And, like you quoted from R’ Miller, Yitzchak wanted to feel more gratitude toward Eisav. But, after all said and done, it must be realized that the purpose of food is health and nourishment, and to teach a child otherwise is wrong.