SDD
Entitled “give (someone) a legal right or a JUST CLAIM to receive or do something” (From Oxford dictionary, emphasis added
But we arent really arguing that point. I misunderstood. apolagies
Your response to my 4 points isnt neccesary either. I am not saying there isnt a valid approach to strive towards only eating to serve the borei olam.
I am saying that not everybody is on that madreiga, and certainly not all children. Thus asking kids about their interests is completly appropriate and is actually excellent chinuch. Again depending on age and madreiga (of both involved).