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go to an Orthodox/ frum shul of any stripe and there is talking throughout davening. Its like the talking is the main thing and agav orchey we say a few amens here and there daven shmoneh esrie and immediately resume our conversations.
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this is not true. people believe this and think it is just impossible to stop the talking in shules and give up or use it as an excuse for their own behavior. (“oh, everyone does that”) .
However there are shules where talking is nearly non-existent.
As my own ( my above observations were from when I am not in my own shul. ) Another poster said the same about his own shul above. There are others where the few talkers relegate themselves to the back while most of the shule is quiet.
look around. If you have children and can’t find a proper place to take them to daven, move.