I’m sure the name “Mr. Z” will ring a few bells with girls who went to a particular seminary.
Mind you, I’m not criticizing seminary. It’s a wonderful experience and girls really grow up both emotionally and spiritually in ways many of them didn’t in HS. Yes, the air of EY has kedusha.
My favorite example of giving a fellow another chance if you were merely so/so after date #1 (as opposed to outright turned off) is my own experience. Date #1 wasn’t bad, it wasn’t good – I wouldn’t have cared a lot if a second date wasn’t arranged. Date #2 and onwards were amazing and we lived happily ever after.