CTLawyer-
If you will notice, I was quoting the words of the OP when I said that. (I just don’t know how to italicize on this forum… I’m sure someone in the CR will help me out.) My response was that you don’t pay someone who doesn’t promise to do any work for you.
Have you ever met with a shadchan? If you did, I’m going with the assumption that you’re male, since maybe shadchanim are making a sales pitch to boys… they certainly are not making one to girls.