Technical20, the shidduch market is not a regulated market; no governing body has the authority to get involved and set prices. It’s also not value based; prices are not based on calculation of the actual cost of the service provided. You’re dealing with a free market where shadchanim take what the consumer is willing to give. I’m sure you’re familiar with supply and demand. Some people feel this system can be exploitative, and maybe it is. But so far it’s what we have. The choice of operating within the system or removing yourself from it, is yours.
I know you realize that ultimately your zivug doesn’t come from a human-based system anyway, although humans have been used for years, by The One orchestrating events, to facilitate the desired results.