RebYid. that is quite illogical. she is not providing the shadchan anything. If she doesnt want to listen to the shadchans suggestions, she could just say no, go away, not interested. Alternatively, if she feels that her spending time with the shadchan is a service she is providing for the shadchan, let her charge for her time.
“The shadchan needs the girl or else he has nothing to offer the boys.”
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