as a girl in shidduchim, I once saw a shadchan take my resume and place it into a huge stack of other resumes.
Then it hit me why resumes are wrong: this shadchan will now hand this stack to the boys’ mothers. she can look through the stack, find the “perfect” one, and mazel tov!
Without giving a single (pun intended) other girl a chance. Because her resume, and then her whole life, is not as perfect.
As if there are perfect people in the world.
And when the girl does not act like the girl from her resume, poof, the shidduchs over…
MHO