Reply To: Being in kollel vs working and learning – which is better? (and other questions)

Learning Boy Vs. Working Boy

By: Sally Cohen

I want a boy who is LEARNING.

….Learning from his mistakes.

….Learning from the mistakes of others.

….Learning how to give without expecting anything in return.

….Learning how to forgive others for their shortcomings.

….Learning how to find true emes in a world brimming with sheker.

….Learning how to take no for an answer.

….Learning how to accept the will of Hashem when life gets stormy.

….Learning how to utilize the tools Hashem gave him to become a better eved Hashem.

….Learning how to find good in the frustrating nuances that happen throughout his day.

….Learning how to grow and become A BETTER HIM.

I want a boy who is WORKING.

….Working towards a greater goal.

….Working on his middos a little bit more each day.

….Working on strengthening his relationships with his rebbeim.

….Working on improving his relationships with his family and friends.

….Working on deepening his connection to Hakadosh Baruch Hu daily.

….Working on giving life all he’s got.

….Working on thanking Hashem for all the little things in life.

….Working on finding hashgachat Hashem in everything that happens to him throughout his day.

….Working to overcome his natural negative tendencies.

….Working on bringing Mashiach a little bit closer every day.

….Working on growing and becoming A BETTER HIM.

THIS is the person I want to marry. Just learning? Only working?! Forget that idea! I want BOTH. 🙂