Being in kollel vs working and learning – which is better? (and other questions)

1. Working is better, otherwise a man can’t fulfill his obligations.

2. No

3. Because the girls are being picky and not marrying men old enough to be their grandfathers or who they feel would not be a good match.

4. Some is, some isn’t.

5. Labels are as accurate as we make them. They exist to facilitate discrimination.

6. If you can’t afford it.

7. AYLOR (don’t bother him with those other questions, they’re a waste of his time)

“Is kollel life the ideal or is working and should kollel folks get community support?”

The more time a person can spend learning Torah, the better. We should support Torah learners.

“Also, should Israeli bochrim be forced to serve in the army?”

No.

“Why is there such a shidduch crisis?”

Because we aren’t following the advice in Pirkei Avos of Shemoneh Esrei L’Chuppah.

“Is modern orthodoxy problematic?”

Yes.

“Why do people use labels like yeshivish, how accurate are labels anyway?”

Inaccurate and should be eliminated.

“Is it wrong to have a very expensive chasuna?”

Usually.

“cholov yisroel- whats the deal?”

A baal nefesh should not consume non-CY (i.e cholov stam).

ooh this is fun! thanks Newbee!

“Is kollel life the ideal or is working”

working, bedieved there are heteirm to not work in spite of all the sources saying to work

” and should kollel folks get community support?”

No

“Also, should Israeli bochrim be forced to serve in the army?”

Same as other Israleis.

“Why is there such a shidduch crisis?”

Becasue just getting people to date is such an eisek with refusal to even consider a shiduch based on the dumbest of resons

“Is modern orthodoxy problematic?”

Aderaba!

“Why do people use labels like yeshivish,”

Becasue there are broad categories among Jews and there are differences between various groups that are well known.

“how accurate are labels anyway?”

Generally fairly acurate. (Though beleive it or not depending on how wide your labels are I’m labeled yeshivish)

“Is it wrong to have a very expensive chasuna?”

Only if the money was obtained illegally

“cholov yisroel- whats the deal?”

double scahr according to my Rebbe

1. Is kollel life the ideal or is working and should kollel folks get community support?

It depends on the person. Some are made to work, some are made to learn.

If the community can afford to support a Kollel, they have to. No one has a right to be Matil themselves on the Tzibbur just because they want to learn.

2. Also, should Israeli bochrim be forced to serve in the army?

If they’re not learning, probably. If they are learning, let them learn. David and Yoav.

3.Why is there such a shidduch crisis?

Who knows?

4. Is modern orthodoxy problematic?

Not inherently. Many who take the title, though, do not do so honestly.

5. Why do people use labels like yeshivish, how accurate are labels anyway?

So they can put other people down and/or put themselves up.

6. Is it wrong to have a very expensive chasuna?

Probably not, but only if you can afford it.

7. cholov yisroel- whats the deal?

I dunno. Large parts of the world chose a Din D’Rbannan with a Machlokes Achronim to make into one of the major issues of what makes one “Frum”. I have no idea why.

Learning Boy Vs. Working Boy

By: Sally Cohen

I want a boy who is LEARNING.

….Learning from his mistakes.

….Learning from the mistakes of others.

….Learning how to give without expecting anything in return.

….Learning how to forgive others for their shortcomings.

….Learning how to find true emes in a world brimming with sheker.

….Learning how to take no for an answer.

….Learning how to accept the will of Hashem when life gets stormy.

….Learning how to utilize the tools Hashem gave him to become a better eved Hashem.

….Learning how to find good in the frustrating nuances that happen throughout his day.

….Learning how to grow and become A BETTER HIM.

I want a boy who is WORKING.

….Working towards a greater goal.

….Working on his middos a little bit more each day.

….Working on strengthening his relationships with his rebbeim.

….Working on improving his relationships with his family and friends.

….Working on deepening his connection to Hakadosh Baruch Hu daily.

….Working on giving life all he’s got.

….Working on thanking Hashem for all the little things in life.

….Working on finding hashgachat Hashem in everything that happens to him throughout his day.

….Working to overcome his natural negative tendencies.

….Working on bringing Mashiach a little bit closer every day.

….Working on growing and becoming A BETTER HIM.

THIS is the person I want to marry. Just learning? Only working?! Forget that idea! I want BOTH. 🙂