I have not been in shidduchim long enough to be sensitive about my age… but i was very excited to see that ppl are discussing the issue of not getting back to a girl after asking her for information… It is the most frustrating thing when someone says “i have an idea for you, please send me your resume.” and then never ever mention it ever again! This has happened with quite a few of my coworkers! They pull me over to the side, ask me for my number, call me in the evening, drill me about what i’m looking for, tell me about some incredible guy they have in mind, give me their email address, text me 3 minutes later that they didn’t receive it, say “oh yeah i got it, thanks! I’ll be in touch!” and then….. i see them every single school-day after that for months and months and they never again mention a word about it and i’m just left WONDERING!! did she end up redting it? did the guy look into me? did she decide it wasn’t shayach? did the guy decide it wasn’t shayach? I can handle a guy saying “no”! I’d rather not go out with someone that isn’t my bashert! the rejection doesn’t hurt me… it’s that feeling of “what ever happened to that?” i’m just left wondering and hanging…. and every time i see that person, i wonder all over again! it doesn’t help that i see them every day!
so if we’re talking about redting shidduchim in a sensitive way, and not wanting to hurt either party… PLEASE get back to us if you mention something! It’s like starting a conversation and never finishing it- and it’s extremely uncomfortable!!
Thank you to all those that put in the effort! it is greatly appreciated!