The Queen: how sad. Perhaps this is one of the reasons why we do need professional Shadchanim, or perhaps you can suggest it to a parent as a buffer?
Can the older singles here please enlighten us (disclaimer: they may not be as sensitive as the friend you mentioned) if they’d be offended in the following scenario: You meet an acquaintance at a family wedding, she chats with you a little and then mentions “I was actually thinking about you lately. I had an idea that may be interesting, give me a call when you have a chance if you want to discuss it.
It’s kind of noisy here, let’s dance…”