Anyone who puts the emphasis on the wrong things in shidduchim, is shallow or misguided, male or female. If the highest priority is “looks,” or financial matters, or what yeshivah/seminary was attended, there is something lacking. Yes, there needs to be attraction on some level, there needs to be a knowledge that finances will be manageable, there needs to be a love of Torah and chashivus to its being learned in some measure on a regular basis. But ALL those things can only be good in conjunction with seeing the person’s middos. ALL those things mean nothing, if the person’s middos are deficient. I don’t care how gorgeous/handsome/ rich/learned the people being redt are. If they have a lack of menschlechkeit, they are not good enough for my kids.
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