“But I am disgusted by the process, especially since it led her to reject a legitimate talmid chochom in the name of marrying someone who is still in yeshiva.”
I don’t understand why people get insulted when the wrong people say no. These girls clearly weren’t looking for college educated boys- esteemed as they may be. More yeses doesn’t result in a sooner marriage or a better marriage. All you need is the right person to say yes and forget everyone else. In this case, these boys likely feel their education is a strong part of their identity. Wouldn’t they only want girls who respect that part of them? Most people would be taken with his Ivy League status. Why get insulted that not everyone in the world agrees? If nothing else he saved himself time by not wasting it on a date with someone who won’t appreciate something he worked hard for and makes him extremely proud.