monseyite: you brought up a good point there.
but unfortunately that happens all the time- the one time since you were born that the school allows you to… it’s such a tieva to try! And the school lets it anyhow.. (so it must not be that bad…)
On the other hand, maybe it’s comparable to a mother that strictly forbids her children to have candy. What happens? If the parent has NOT patiently over and over again ingrained in the child the evils of candy (NOT my opinion ;)) and how it rots your teeth and inside ect, and how we are “special and lucky” not to eat it, than you can be 99% sure that the child will at some point sneak some candy.
Even IF you ingrain it in them, they probably will have some anyway.
forbidden waters are sweet
so maybe the problem is, that they are not allowed to, strictly, and therefor when they are allowed to, they jump in head first, and as the original poster wrote
“…leading many brides to put on HEAVY makeup”
maybe, just a suggestion, because I am not part of that Kehilla and cannot fully understand the mentality, but maybe they should have classes for Kallahs on how to put on makeup. lightly that it enhances the natural beauty of a woman and not diminishes it with heavy makeup, teaching them to have a balance, so that when they graduate and are allowed to do whatever they want, they are “trained”.
Comparative to the mother and candy- instead of absolutely forbidding it, show the child how to have it in MODERATION.
slightly wacky idea, I know…!