Don’t think of it as ‘allowed’ and ‘not allowed’, women and men. For a man OR a woman, is it refined to do all the things you list up there in public? Can you imagine the president or the queen doing those things in public? That’s the idea. Not making a big scene of yourself is just a refined way of behaving.
Do I agree women should not do these things according to halacha? No, I do these things all the time. Is it classy and elegant? No.