Having 3 girls and 2 boys. Both boys married, one girl married, the second girl’s chassanah is set for before Pesach (3rd girl too young), that our girls rejected a second date more times than our sons.
It became blatantly obvious to our daughters that the dates had been led to believe that I was to be their meal ticket, something our daughters loathe.
This is not to say that I would not offer to support the couple for a period of time in the beginning of their marriage. BUT this is an offer for me to make, not a request/demand/condition to be laid out to a young lady on a first date.