cause i know that if he was able to take on him to admit to me that he did something wrong. that he really has charata for what he did. so now that he has asked me forgiveness its time for me to move on. theres just a limit how much a person can let his life get ruined over 1 event that happened (although it may be major)
ex. even if someone murders someones relative C”V is the person killeds family gonna be depressed & upset & angry etc… at the murderer for THEIR ENTIRE LIFE? is it worth it to ruin your entire future 80 or 90 years of life ahead of you over 1 Major tragedy/event? (the murderer will pay justice in bais din/civil court but you cant throw YOUR entire life down the drain over this 1 event)
theres a limit to every situation, in the case of Niftar there are levels from Shiva to Shloshim to yahrtzeit etc… & what each one allolws or not allows. but you cant lock yourself up for life because of it
GET OVER IT
HATZLACHA