modchebp –
“Getting to know us” in a few meetings and then using that as a basis for suggesting a lifeparnter? I think not.
And when anyone demands / pays the kind of money you are suggesting (even if one / both sides can afford it), it sets the bar too high for most parents to reach.
Truth is, I CAN afford it, but there is no reason I (or any other fine family) should pay it. Just becuase the “market conditions” have created a panic and buying / selling on fear?
Shame on us, if this is what we have come to. How’s this for an idea; lets do away with the “Best bocher / Best seminary mindset and start looking at our children like the children they are, and base our expectations on the reality as it truly is.
Not each us us are million dollar candidates. Despite what the shadchan tells you / says of you.