Some things you just gotta swallow.
I always said I wanted a quiet, petite, blonde haired/blue eyed learner…
What I got was a dark chevraman with two squawking radios that was out of kollel by the time the first kid was born… So yeah, I totally get the ear plugs not being effective comment…
BUT at the end of the day, there was that “attraction!” And for some reason, even with his incredible LOUDNESS (and I LOATHE noise!!!) I still wouldn’t trade him in!
So there ya go. Case in point, to solve two threads at once: attraction is real, and sometimes we have to get what we’d thought we’d hate anyways. and at the end of the day, its all good. so just take the first guy that looks like you can build a solid Jewish life with and move on. You’ll get paired with the guy you NEED; not necessarily what you thought you’d like.
(I totally see my hubs as the biggest catalyst for self-improvement…)