Of course two random people can’t just get married and make it work. Shlome haMelech proved that idea wrong many, many years ago…
Like I said, I do believe in a basic attraction, in which two souls connect on a certain level.
However, if we stop and look at the history of Jewish marriages, the real Jewish way is like the chasidishe beshow, in which the parents do the research and then the kids get married after a quick meeting to make sure that they are acceptably attractive to one another.
The raw ingredients of a Jewish relationship include two healthy people who desire to build a stable marriage and do not disgust one another. There should naturally be some sort of pull between the two as well, although “love” is completely foreign to the Jewish mentality until AFTER marriage.
And again, even with the best ingredients for a marriage- your spouse will still drive you nuts.
Its a fact. Wait and see. 😛