Thanks another name, and the rest, you beat me to it.
Droid, you’re just gonna have to establish your bona fides. I haven’t been through it myself but have seen enough people who have that I can’t make such statements.
And last time I checked – and please correct me if I’m wrong, folks – we’re not Catholic. Yes, the mizbeach weeps, yes it’s absolutely painful, but B”H it’s there as a halachically valid option.