Divorce is bad / unacceptable / shameful, etc. only when it’s someone else’s daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, etc. who is getting abused, beaten, or neglected. The moment it’s close to home, everyone’s song changes. So, enough pontificating. Every case is it’s own tragedy about which most outsiders do not fully grasp the context and the ramifications. The damage one spouse inflicts on another (generally, but not always the man against the woman) harms the children in a huge and often irreparable way. Often, divorce is a salvation for the abused spouse and children. Urge troubled couples to get quality guidance from frum counselors. Do not tell a battered woman (or man!) to remain in an abusive relationship. No one outside the marriage is in a position to dictate to a suffering spouse how much physical, emotional, financial abuse is “acceptable” or when it’s “too much.”
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