Any way you slice and dice it, you hypocritically clearly judged a whole community even without necessitating mentioning them.
You also are disagreeing with Rav Shteinman, Rav Miller and other gedolei yisroel who did render a judgement on the tremendous amount of unnecessary and preventable divorces that have occurred in the frum community.
And if the barometer for your judgement is which ex-spouse remarried and which did not, be informed that in the “community” of divorcees the men tend to remarry quicker and the men remarry more often than the women (while the women are more likely than the men to never remarry.) This point can be confirmed by shadchanim dealing with divorcees. Using your criteria we apparently know who is to blame, don’t we. Unless, of course, you were rendering your judgement based on one sided stories. Considering you judged “99%” of the men of the “whole community” to be guilty, even prior to accounting who remarried and who not, that is most obvious.