The queen- i never said date for a year, so shkoyach to you for making a grand statement. I never said dating longer was the only solution. I stressed communication is super important. Having a shadchan as the in between doesn’t help this and by the time the couple is ready to get married, all important conversation revolves that and then the wedding and then the first baby. Where is the couples relationship? if the only purpose of marriage was to have children then why isn’t everyone having kids until the woman can’t anymore and then divorcing? Because marriage is so much more than the wedding and the kids. It is also about a healthy bond between the parents.
And this bond should not have to wait til after marriage to grow. Young men and women should get the proper communication experiance before. And furthermore, they must not be pressured! this was a huge point a stressed. The pressure on girls is major and they are treated like cattle in this experiance of shidduchim. It’s no wonder the divorce rate is high.